So I've been looking around Pintrest a lot (you know you've got to love it), and one time while I was looking around I found a post saying that people who smile when they are in pain are strong. I couldn't help but stare at it, confused.
I mean honestly, how many of us can honestly smile while we are in pain? I mean I understand when people are able to smile when they find things they are thankful for through the pain, but how many of us do that? I wish we did it more often, but we don't.
Most of the time, when we smile when we are in pain, we're only trying to hide our feelings. I know it's true because I've done it tons of times, and I am pretty sure everyone else has too. When we feel like our world is falling down we're too scared to let people know how we feel because we're worried they'll laugh at our pain or won't take us seriously. We always grab the mask with a pretty smile and hide our tear stained face, because we're too scared to trust.
That is what I was thinking for hours after I saw it, but I realised something later on. Why are we so scared to trust people? What happened to everyone that made us stop telling the truth and start spilling out lies when we are broken? If you walk up to someone today and be honest with them, they look at you like there is something wrong with you. Shouldn't it be the other way around?
We have carved into our minds that we can't trust anyone, when there are tons of people who care about you and want to help you through your pain. I know that is true because I believed that I could trust no one for a long time, and that no one cared, and I am pretty sure tons of people feel the same. You see it everywhere. And if you find it hard to believe that people care, put yourself in their shoes. Lets say someone you care about is obviously not okay, but they won't tell you what is going on because they don't think you care and they can't trust you. Honestly, I would feel like crying right on the spot. Don't you think that's how everyone else feels?
And what is so bad about being honest with yourself and others? If they don't care about how you feel they're not worth your time, don't you think? When people ask me how I have been doing, I tell them the truth because I know they really want to know. I know it's not always that way for other people, but it should be. Why should we ask how people are doing if we don't want to know?
So, this is where we come to the dare. I've been doing this with my friends, and honestly, it works VERY well. Get a group of your friends together, and make each other swear that when you ask each other how they feel and what has been going on, be honest. Don't allow each other to use the plain, boring words like "good" or "okay", because those words are just cover-ups for how you are really feeling. If you really feel "good" try saying fantastic, fantastic is a wonderful word.
I promise you that if you do this dare, a stronger bond will be made between you and your friends, or whoever you do this with. And this isn't exactly needed, but it would be great if we never use that fake smile mask again, don't you think? Just try to be more honest with people, even if they don't ask. Cry if you want to cry, laugh if you want to laugh, and ask people to help you if you feel lost or broken. It's just simple, yet wonderful logic that SHOULD be used more often.
And that is all I have to say. Good luck with the dare, everyone! Have a "fantastic", honest week.
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